All good-looking men are... GAY?!

A conversation with a very candid friend led to very lively discussion about homosexuality. A number of his statements surprised me especially when he said, "Before, all good-looking men are straight unless proven otherwise. Now, all good-looking men are gay unless proven otherwise." Woooo, what a statement!

Quite an unfair statement, isn't it? But if indeed what he said was accurate enough, oh my.... what an epidemic!!!

After giving it some thought, my small mind led me to think that perhaps there's some truth to what he said. Good looking guys are at a greater risk of being exposed and oriented into homosexuality (bisexuality, initially) considering their "market value" and the attractive force it creates onto other guys who are already gay or bisexual. I think it would be logical to assume that more often than not good looking guys do get the most attention and eventually the highest chances of encountering m2m experiences. Would you agree?

Sexual orientation, for me, is a "learned" aspect of human sexuality. Of course, we cannot discount genetics. However, genetics can only do so much and studies show that gene function gets modified or altered in response to the influence of the environment. Therefore, what shapes a man's psychological being is, for the most part, played by all the myriad of the learning experiences he encountered from early childhood up to adulthood, ranging from the minutest, most insignificant ones to the most profound. Since it is learned, sexual orientation is "fluid" in that it CAN change over a person's lifetime. In a joint statement with other major American medical organizations, the American Psychiatric Association says that "different people realize at different points in their lives that they are heterosexual, gay, lesbian, or bisexual"

So building on the above statements, can most, if not all, good-looking guys be actually gay unless proven otherwise? I'll leave it to you to decide.

On a side note:  The most powerful conditioning factor that encourages a person to engage in certain acts and behavior again and again and again is... PLEASURE. So better be careful what kind of pleasures you constantly indulge yourself into... for it might be subtly and subconsciously "shaping" you.

Latest Poll Results: 1.) What would you do on your first date? 2.) Why would you would you join a gay social network site?

Guys, here are the results of the latest polls for the month of March 2010.

1. On your first date, you would rather...

• Kiss (20% of voters)
• Hold hands                  (33%)
• Pa-virgin effect             (26%)
• Go "all the the way"      (1%)
• All of the above            (13%)

2. Why would you join a gay social network site? (eg. g4m, manhunt, manjam, etc.)

• To have sex! Kelangan pa bang i-memorize ya!?                                     (15%)
• To find a good friend. Iba pa rin yung may kaibigang nakakaintindi sayo.  (0%)
• Just taking my chances on finding "Mr. Right"                                          (53%)
• Man, I love showing my hot body pics.                                                    (15%)
• My curiousity is killling me                                                                       (15%)

• What can you say about the result?
• Do you agree with it?
• What insights can you draw out of it?

Kindly leave your comments, opinions, and reactions in the comment box below



For your poll question suggestions, please send them to discreetyuppies@yahoo.com

Big Smile... haha.

I'm amazed these past few days, I get not less than a hundred visitors in my blog! Daily! Though, that can be very small compared to other established blogs. But for a newly-made blog like mine, happy na ako. haha. Sana tuloy tuloy na.


Guys, I have incorporated a "Monster Radio FM" stream. Hope you like it.  Pretty cool actually. I use it myself to listen to cool music when I'm online. I'll be adding more radio stations very soon. So Stay tuned. If  you haven't bookmarked this blog, you better do it! :)


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A Must-have Gadget This 2010!!!

Guys, you gotta have this gadget!  It definitely can save you from trouble! When I saw this vid, I can hardly wait to post it here. So here it is... =)

Changing Habits: The Core of Self-Improvement

Habits can either be good or bad. They can either work for you or against you. They can either make your life easy or difficult. Depending on the kind of habitual behaviors you are forming, you are either preparing yourself for a life of defeat or or a life of victory.

Habits of good grooming, good health practices, excellence, thoroughness, honesty, punctuality, diligence in studying or at work are but a few examples of the good ones. On the other hand, habits of procrastination, tardiness, lying, gossiping, excessive masturbation, smoking among so many others are the ones that are on the opposite side, which obviously have deleterious effects and consequences.

Do you find yourself hooked on a certain habitual behavior? Do you desire to change? Lets take a closer view at the true nature of habits and discover practical steps that you may take towards your desired change. Read on.

What are habits?

• Habits are learned, not instinctive, routines of behavior that occur automatically and are repeated regularly, sometimes even without requiring thinking or intention. 
• The person may not be paying attention to or be conscious or aware of the behavior. However, when the behavior is brought to the person's attention, they may be able to control it.
•  Habits are easily learned but difficult to unlearn.
• Bad habits are more easily formed and learned than good ones.

How are habits formed?

• Key to establishing a habit is repetition of the act.
• The tendency of human behavior is to repeat or re-indulge in an act that gives oneself pleasure. It may be in the form of physical, emotional, and social pleasures. However, it is important to note that not all that are pleasurable is expedient.

How do habits affect you?

• Established habits lay the foundation of your character. 
• Good habits positively influence your life in general, in as much as bad habits do the exact opposite
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  Habits can be powerful enough to virtually enslave a person into a state of powerlessness. Hence, with habits, you can either be a slave to a good or to a bad "master."

Can established habits be changed or improved?

As said earlier, habits are learned. So as long as you have the capacity to learn (which means, as long as you are living), you can change your habits. Although, it would be much difficult to unlearn the already established ones, replacing them with new ones will eventually weaken their power in time. So there is always hope at self-improvement as long you have the willpower and a strong desire to change.

What are the stages of HABIT CHANGE?

Habit formation and establishment occurs in a stepwise manner. Basically it starts with a the initial act or thought that becomes repeated over and over through time, eventually becoming automatic in the long run.  In a similar manner, changing habits also occur in a stepwise fashion. We can call it the five stages of Habit Change.  Look carefully at what occurs in each stage as you may be unaware of what is going on.

1.    Precontemplation Stage

a.   You have at least one of the desctructive and self-defeating behaviours you need to change.

b.   You don’t admit you have a problem

c.   You see unhealthy habits in others but not on yourself

d.   You don’t want to change yourself

e.   You think others are to blame for your habits or difficulties

f.    Others might be conscious of your  behavior. (parents complaining of your staying up late at night, losing weight; teachers tell you your grades are a bit low; friend tells you you have no time, you are changing; employers might be complaining of your performance)

g.   There is denial and resistance to change

h.   If you stay in this stage, you are stuck, and you’ll surely be defeated.

i.    You need to be more conscious of your own self by doing a self-assessment.

2.   Contemplation Stage

a.   You acknowledge you have a problem, and you want to get unstucked.

b.   You begin to think seriously about solving your problem.

c.   You try understand its causes and you begin to investigate your options.

d.   You make definite plans to take action immediately or within the next few months.

e.    In this stage, you might be stuck for months or years if you don’t proceed to the next stage. Why?  You know you need to change, and you intend to... someday.. just as soon as.. after... when the rush is over...  You know your desire to change and you know where you're going (destination) but you are not quite ready to go. Giving up something you have come treasure is a hard thing to do.

f.    Here, you fear you’ll fail.  It’s hard to change.  You say to yourself, "I can’t possibly change. " So you keep searching for an easier, more dramatic, or more complete solution to your problem.

g.   Failure is guaranteed if you don't move on to the next stage.

3.  Preparation Stage

a.   Here you make plans and you prepare for the BIG change.  If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

b.  You greatly reduce your success probability if you suddenly wake up one morning, then say “This is the day” and dive headfirst into a change without realistically and specifically planning how you will make the change happen.

c.  Therefore, here you need to develop a detailed plan of action and you may announce your intention publicly. You may tell others, your friends, parents, colleagues, etc. They can help and support you in the process.

d.  Your awareness might be high and you may have already begun small behavioural changes.

e.   Important:  Before moving ahead with your plan (the next stage, which is ACTION), you need to know exactly HOW you will keep your awareness and commitment high throughout the struggles of the next stages. (Ask others to remind you. Post some notes/reminders.)

4.    Action Stage

a.   As Nike's slogan says "JUST DO IT!" then should you. And do it now!

b.   This action stage requires the most commitment and energy.  It’s where you actually execute your plan.

c.   Here, you receive the most recognition and support during this stage, because others can see that you’re working at it.

d.  You follow the plan you have made in stage 3, make revisions of your plan, and “keep on keeping on” even if its inconvenient or difficult.

e.  CAUTION: Action at this point doesn't necessarily mean that lasting change has been made.  Action is an essential part of the process, but failure to MAINTAIN  the new behaviour you are doing can SABOTAGE the progress you’ve made so far.

5.     Maintenance

a.  This stage is a long, ongoing process.

b.  This is the most difficult. (e.g. maintaining a diet for losing weight, sustaining punctuality, etc.)

c.  Here, you to need to be at constant vigilance and cautious in your dealings with those temptations that can draw you back into the old, destructive pattern.

d.  You need hard work to consolidate the gains you've made during the first four stages and to PREVENT RELAPSE. DON’T SLIP BACK!!!

e.  Celebrate achieving your goals.  Treat yourself! But don’t relax and tell yourself, “Whew! I’m glad It’s over!” because it is not.

f.   Develop a menu of mental and behavioral coping strategies that will take you through the times when your feet begin to slip. Keep in mind:

1.   The more addictive the habit was, the MORE FIERCE the battle would be

2.   In times of stress and problems or conflicts, people are most likely to slip.

3.   Once you slip, you can fall back to previous stages or worse, right back to the start and begin the process all over again!  Sayang and hard work mo...

Change is possible. Don’t give up! If you have set backs, don’t stay there. Pick yourself up, dust off, and try again. This time,with a revised and better plan. As I said earlier, so as long as you have the capacity to learn, which means as long as you are alive, you can scrap those bad habits off your system and begin to replace them with good ones. There is always hope at self-improvement as long you have the willpower and a strong desire to change. Persistence is the key.

The Value of Time

Time doesn't wait. Can the world and the rest of the universe freeze for a moment? Woe unto the procrastinators and the sluggish.

Time wasted, is time lost forever. Who can undo time? Can you go back to the past and make amendments?

Time is money. Each tick of the clock counts. Productivity is greatest when things are done in a timely manner.

Time is gold. It is the most precious "commodity" one can have. Opportunities lost seldom come back.

Time is either a friend or an enemy. It can either work for you or against you.

So manage your time wisely. Live each day as if it were your last. Live life to the fullest.  Make the most of your time. Each second counts!

Start of the Beginning: "I don't know if love could win over lust and urge"

This article is an original Discreet Yuppies™ reader contribution
Author: Erratico


I want to do things that are forbidden. I want try stuffs that might curse me and crucify me as a sinner. I want to break the rules and go beyond the traditions and norms. I want to be bad. I want to be free.

For years, I've been trying to live like a normal guy. But I'm not normal. I'm different. And being different is really hard. I'm bisexual. Someone that is breaking and living his life with two sides. I don't know how it started. I never thought that this would be hard as I grew older. But then, how I wish I could simply ignore that other side of me and be normal and just be a real man.

Before I thought that this was just a stage of identity crisis. But then at age of 25, I guess i can't fool myself with that lame excuse. I already accepted that I'm bisexual...that somehow I am attracted to guys. But what differentiates me from other common bisexuals is that I'm still trying not to do the "act".

Yup, I still don't have sexual encounters with the same sex and either opposite sex. In short, I'm still a certified virgin. I'm an NGSB, which means No Girlfriend Since Birth. Well, it's been a mystery because during my younger days I courted a lot of girls. I just don't know why none of them prospered. Until, I discovered that I'm attracted to guys also. My first serious attraction was with my bestfriend. Suddenly, my like to him became lust. There was a time when because of this dilemma I decided to avoid him. For years, I tried not to see him. But then after so many years, when I thought that all the lust is gone, I tried to reconcile with the friendship but then it still there. Then, I came to the point that I realized that I'm not only attracted to him but to other guys also...that I'm bisexual.

Now I'm bothererd where my life is heading to. I'm in the middle of the crossroad trying to choose what path I should take. I guess I just understand why I still don't have a girlfriend. Coz I'm afraid. I don't know if my masculinity could sustain their expectations. I don't know if love could win over lust and urge. What if fate plays on me and give me a temptation while I'm in a relationship? What if I totally become gay but in the end a girl of my dreams comes along? I'm afraid to choose coz I'm afraid to make mistakes. They said life is a gamble and to lose and win are the consequences. But the only goal is to be happy. And it's up to you to play your cards but in the end future can only tell what will be the outcome.

I want to play life's game. I want to see what 's hiding besides that what ifs. I want to explore more about myself and know the real me. I might be do something that is beyond my normal cliche. I want to find the answer. And maybe, I'll be surprised what I'll find out, that afterall those dilemmas and confusions, I'm not really the person I thought I was.