Revolutionary Practical Flirting Tips for Discreet and Closeted Homosexual and Bisexual Men this 2011!

Okay, I admit it. I still maintain an account at Planet Romeo though I'm really not an active user there. Rather, I'm basically just a passive lurker. Want me to expound on it a bit? Ummm, when I'm online, I basically do nothing most of the time but just wait and check my inbox and visitors list every now and then to see who sent me a message and look for any "interesting personalities" who checked my profile out. At most, PR is just one of the inactive tabs in my Chrome multi-tab browser. Good thing, I apparently succeeded in making a pretty decent and sensible profile so far, since guys who try to make connections are mostly the decent and sensible ones most of the time. Hmmmm, are you curious what my account name is? Come closer, i'll whisper it to your ear. hehe. Research research... Promise, I'll date you for a week if you find out. ;-P

Anyway, the reason for this post is an interesting profile statement/write-up I saw in one of my PR profile visitors. I thought it might be worth sharing. Since it was stated in his profile that he just copied it as well from another user, source unknown, I thought it wouldn't be bad to share it here, as well. In fact, I thought it should be a MUST-SHARE since discreet yuppies will really find it useful. You might wanna apply these tips! hehe. So without much further adieu, here it is, copied verbatim....

lets just be spontaneous... :)


TRY TO READ THIS...

HELP SPREAD THIS OUT (*from a friend)

Ever wonder if that cute, hunky, simple, tall guy with you in a public jeepney, inside the MRT or LRT is a bi or gay?

Are you tired of the old fasion way of just staring in the eye of one another but not really getting any clear anwers to whom youre having eye contact with until it was too late and you just say,, "sayang!! ang cute pa nmn nya!!" and you just watch this person as you both part ways and then there is still this "nakaw tingin" but you are just too afraid to approach, not knowing that the guy was also interested in you?

Well its about time to do something about it!! this flirt signs can be done in public with no hassels AT ALL. no fear of having all the non-third sexes figure out it was actually a flirtatious act..

Help me spread out this new kewl stuff to all your networks, may it be friendster or what have you that have access to all other concerned and involved ones..

so lets get started.. lets say, you are in any public means of tranportation, say MRT, LRT, JEEP, FX or even in a private car. and you came across with this hot-looking guy that you cant even sense if he is bi, gay or straight, and you are interested with this person and so is the person is to you.. this is why we all need this to silently communicated and flirt...here is the flirt signs 101.

HOLD YOUR NOSE with one hand like wiping out oil shows your interest to a person.

HOLD YOUR CHIN as if checking all the unshaved beard shows you are interested back to the person.

PINCHING your left ear with one hand means you wanna know if the person is bi or gay.

if you are BI, you just need to LICK OR WET YOUR LIPS while looking at the person.

if you are GAY, you will need to WIPE YOUR EYES like you are wiping out eye dirts.

TOUCH YOUR HEAD, if you wanna know if the person is TOP or bottom, the same thing should be done if you are TOP.

REACH YOUR POCKET (your behind pocket) as if you're reaching for your wallet if you are a bottom.


Now lets say you both understood each other but you didnt know whether the person wants to meet or wait outside of where you both are,, Just RUB YOUR HANDS TOGETHER as if you just put some alcogel on them means lets meet outside. then if the person rubs his hands together too, thats it!! you just caught a big fish out of a small pond.. hahaha

So there you go. What do you think? Pretty clever huh.. So any comments? Violent reactions?Additional tips? Feedbacks are most welcome! :-)

Now why not go and try them out. Who knows, these are really already practiced by many -that I do not know though. Actually, I think that if all discreet guys know about this, whoaaa it can revolutionized Gay/Bi flirting like never before! Oh my... (please don't get me wrong here, im not advocating massive flirtations) So, why not give it a try and be surprised with amazing results! hehe.

PS... But please don't forget to come back here and share your experience... :-)

Unintentional Promiscuity

What? Untintentional promiscuity? Is there such???

I tell you there is! J

Wikipedia defines promiscuity as sex with relatively many partners.

Now, indulging in promiscuous acts involves conscious decision and active effort. In short, there is intent to engage in such activity. I call this as intentional promiscuity. So then if there is such a thing as intentional promiscuity, there must also be an unintentional promiscuity.

Intentionally promiscuous men are those who are in the habit of having sex with random men just for the purpose of satisfying their sexual needs.  When you go to gay dating sites, they are typically the ones with very suggestive headlines, steamy pictures, and sexually inviting write ups. So here, we see that the intention is to have sex, for the reason of satisfying sexual needs.

On the other hand, unintentionally promiscuous men usually do not actually claim or see themselves as promiscuous. I personally coin the term “unintentional promiscuity” to refer to such situation of homosexual and bisexual men having a series of multiple sexual partners, but without the original intention of being such.  Unintentionally promiscuous men would often maintain that sex was not really their primary intention; it just happened.  Sounds ridiculous? Probably not.  Why? How come?

Somehow, there is some truth to that.  Unintentional promiscuity can happen to anyone. Particularly among discreet gay and bi men, there is that universal longing for someone to fill that empty spot within. This longing for love and affection is strong and enduring.  It is felt as a need to have someone special. However, finding a decent, “perfect” male partner/lover to fulfill that emotional need is difficult.  Finding the perfect guy is quite impossible. This is particularly true to choosy ones who set high and stiff standards on who and how their partner should be. This leads them into attempts at finding and establish a worthwhile relationship with a nice guy that comes along, which more oftenly involves sex. However, more often than not, things fail and the cycle continues again. Guy after another guy… trying, looking, hoping… wishing the best guy to fulfill that longing for someone special to complete and fill that empty spot within would come. And before long, the number of guys stacks up.  So does that now becomes a case of promiscuity? Yes, definitely. Done intentionally? Apparently not.

So is this difference significant? Does this difference sets one a better state than the other? Would a red-colored shirt look different from a white shirt that fell on a basin of red dye? You decide. :)

A Thin Line

            One thing that seems peculiar among homosexual and bisexual men is the thin boundary that separates pure platonic friendship and romantic-sexual relationship.  In many discreet homosexuals, it is not uncommon to have “friends with benefit” and “fuck buddies” as they are called. They claim that sex between friends does not necessarily involve emotion. It is but having a “release” of pent up sexual urges with someone familiar rather than hooking up with a stranger on a “one night stand” basis. This set up further gives the benefit of security, safety, and confidentiality, etc. without having to worry about sexually transmitted diseases, risk of pregnancy, and compatibility, among other issues associated with random sex. It can be expected that sex with a random stranger for the sake of having sex is nothing but a pure physical interaction meant to satisfy the cravings for sexual pleasure.  However, I personally doubt if periodic sex with a “friend” does not really involve emotions.  

Among many, what happens is either romance occurs first followed by a bloom of friendship or vice versa.  On one hand, through the initial sexual attraction and sexual encounter a friendship can be born.  On the other hand, an existing friendship may pave the way to the benefits of mutually enjoying sexual pleasures.

            So why does romantic friendship exist? Most probably, this occurs due to the fact that since bisexual and homosexual men are sexually attracted to their fellow men, a male friend can be at times become a potential object of sexual desire, given the right and favorable circumstance. And since men are generally primarily sexually-motivated, sexual interactions can occur easily. However, to be fair enough, whether this desire consummates to the sexual act is still subject to one’s self-control, discipline, and personal values.

Differing opinions exist regarding this matter.  Some say it is okay as long as you don’t get hurt or hurt anyone in the process as sex is a basic human need and needs to be enjoyed, while others say it is but a sign of moral looseness and sexual depravity. Others also maintain that having a regular “FUBU” friend is a better alternative to being promiscuous.  Whichever the case maybe, clearly, there is but a thin line that separates pure friendship and romantic friendship, particularly among male homosexuals and bisexuals. Is this good or bad? Is sex between friends okay? You be the judge. It’s totally up to you to decide, depending on your perspectives, beliefs, and philosophies in life.

HIV-AIDS: How much do you know about it?

Recently, we hear in the news a rise of HIV cases in the Philippines. Leading is Metro Manila, followed by Metro Cebu, and Metro Davao. Most of these reported cases were males. Authorities attribute this increase to the internet where finding of sex dates becomes easier, particularly among the homosexual and the bisexual population. Males having sex with other males is no longer a new thing in the country. So just in case, here are few salient fast facts about HIV:AIDS you might find useful.

What is HIV? What is AIDS?

HIV stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus. It is the culprit virus responsible for causing the disease called AIDS. The virus specifically attacks the cells of the immune system of a person leaving his immunity down, consequently making him susceptible to acquire other diseases and other forms of infections. This is in form or tumors, cancers, bacterial, fungal, protozoal, and other viral infections. This immune system debilitation process may take years, ranging from <1 to 10 years or more, depending on the immune status of the person and the availability of treatments. By the time that HIV has severely disabled the immune system and diseases are coming in, the HIV-infected person is now said to have a full-blown AIDS. 

AIDS stands for acquired immunodeficiency syndrome. It describes an acquired state of severely compromised immune system function with concomitant onslaught of a constellation of diseases (syndrome) that eventually results to the death of the affected individual.

*note: When an individual turns out positive for HIV on blood test but does manifest the signs and symptoms of the disease, he is referred to as "HIV-positive" only and not an AIDS case... yet. Only when opportunistic diseases start to appear can an HIV-positive individual be said to have AIDS.

How can you get infected?

HIV is found in the blood and other body fluids of an HIV-positive individual. Hence, it follows that you may get the virus when you have a direct contact with the blood, mucous membrane (i.e. the membrane lining of all other surfaces of the body not covered by skin, such as the oral cavity, vagina, anal cavity, etc.), and bodily fluids of an HIV-positive person.  

Body fluids that may contain HIV includes:

1.       Blood (primarily)

2.       Semen

3.       Vaginal fluid

4.       Preseminal fluid (aka precum)

5.       Breast milk

The transmission of the virus from the affected to the unaffected person occurs when the virus gains access to the into the body and into the living tissues of the unaffected individual. This can be brought about by direct injection of virus by contaminated sharp objects or when there is a break in the normal barriers of the body brought about by large and even microscopic tears  in the skin or the mucous membrane lining. 

Activities that predispose a person to acquiring the virus include:

1.)    Anal, vaginal or oral sex (arranged in decreasing order or chance or risk)

2.)    Blood transfusion

3.)    Contaminated hypodermic needles and sharps

4.)    Tattoos, piercings

5.)    Intravenous drug use (among drug addicts)

6.)    Exchange of blood between mother and baby during pregnancy

7.)    Childbirth

8.)    Breastfeeding

9.)    Other forms of exposure to one of the above body fluids.

How can you avoid getting infected?
Ways to avoid getting the virus are very logical. Here are some pointers relevant to the m2m setting that you ought to keep in mind.

On sex:

1.       Do not take undue risk. Casual sex with random strangers pose much much danger.  You don't know their background, lifestyle, and activities.

2.       Avoid unprotected sex with anyone suspected or at high risk of having HIV. Sex workers, multiple sexual partners, serial monogamous sexual relationships, drug addicts, those with multiple piercings and tattoes, etc. are among those at high risk for possibly harboring the virus.

3.       If casual sex is inevitable, practice safe sex at all times.  Use condoms at least.

4.       Avoid or minimize kinky sexual activities (or unduly rough sex) that may result to tears in the mucous membranes or cause injury and bleeding however mild it may be. The following are some practical facts about certain sexual practices (the rest not mentioned are for your mind to tinker upon):

§  Anal sex is particularly implicated in HIV transmission.  Rough unprotected ("un-condomed") anal sex causes tears in the anal cavity lining, predisposing to HIV transmission.  Unlike the vagina, the anus is not designed to be exposed to repeated heavy friction. Unprotected anal sex is a dangerous practice!

ü TRIVIA: uncircumcised males have a greater chance of contracting HIV. The foreskin exposes the glans of the penis to added friction and hence, the higher chance of tears.

§  The oral cavity is much more able to withstand tears, although this does not eliminate the probability of getting the virus. Oral sex can be safer, but not at all that safe. Moderation is the answer.

§  Kissing is practically safe, as long as there's no bleeding.

§  Mutual masturbation may be considered the safest of all sexual activities.

5.       Abstinence is still the best way to avoid exposure.  However for obvious reasons, this is quite impossible, unless you're a priest... a truly celibate priest. ;-)

6.       Be faithful to your partner. Only by doing so can you avoid or minimize the chance of getting the virus and passing it on to your partner.

On body piercing and tattoos:

1.       Ensure your safety. Only have these procedures done by qualified, duly trained personnel.

2.       Make sure your tattoo artist practice scrupulous disinfection of the tattoo machine used, or whatever that is called. The same applies to piercings.

3.       It is best (or a must) to always use new "sharps" in the procedure.

On hypodermic needle use:

1.       Avoid getting pricked by contaminated needles.

2.       If you're an intravenous drug user (i hope you're not), don't share needles with others.

Is there a cure?


Unfortunately, there is still no cure for the AIDS.  Drugs available only delays the progression of the disease. Attempts are made at developing vaccines. Intensive researches are still on-going.

My take home message for you…

We only have one life. Moments of careless pleasures can ruin a lifetime of health and happiness. So, be "good" at most times. Be "safe" at all times. Enjoy life to the fullest, but enjoy life wisely. Cheers!

The Sex Cement Effect: It's fate on Casual Sex

Disclaimer: This article is quite biased against casual sex but is not intended to condemn such or intended to elicit hostile reactions... peace. :-)

You might be wondering what this article is all about. Well, I just thought how many guys in the m2m world must have probably found themselves disappointed and unhappy over and over again when they engage in what is suppose to be just a casual sex and eventually find themselves emotionally attached and wrecked.

I have thought of this when a good friend of mine (who came out to me, but unknown to him we're alike..wink*wink* ) tells me about his devastation in his series of failed m2m relationships. I found out that what usually happens is that those relationships all initially started with casual sex. Then if they click, they try to elevate the random encounter into a relationship. However, it doesn't last because sooner he will either feel the other guy growing cold or find out the other guy is secretly seeing another one. Well, having met those guys from a gay dating site, with headless steamy pics on their profiles, it can be expected why (I am not trying to generalize, ok?). So apparently, physical attraction and sexual object preceded the getting-to-know stage and bonding stage and has become the foundation of the relationship. Shouldn't it be ideally the other way around? Shouldn't it be that two people should get to know each other first before entering into a relationship? Shouldn't it be that sex only follows as the ultimate sign of the blooming relationship?

I came to think of sex as a some sort of a relationship cement. The sexual act is suppose to cement and fortify a relationship rather than serve as the initiator, nurturer, developer of it . Sex is designed to ultimately bring out deeper emotions that binds lovers together in a bond that further strengthens the established relationship. Sex opens up emotional avenues that remain closed in platonic relationships. Sex allows deeper emotional attachment that promotes cohesion between lovers.

In casual sex, the integral emotional component of sex is removed. Sex becomes viewed to be just a plain activity to derive pleasures from. An exchange of body fluids. A means of release. A way to explore. Over time, sex loses it's special purpose and more often than not, it becomes a commonplace thing to do. The sex cement effect is lost. Hence, we see open relationships, multiple partners, polygamous behaviors, so on and so forth. End result? Short-lived, broken relationship.

If you intend to enter into a relationship that lasts, a relationship that is founded on friendship, true love and not just plain superficial sexual and physical attraction, don't put sex at the top of your relationship start-up checklist. Don't make sex as the initial test to see whether the two of you shall click.

In addition, don't fall prey to a guy that feeds on sex. Don't play in his playground. Unless you are "skilled" and "experienced" enough in the game of casual sex, you might just end up emotionally wrecked.

Don't get me wrong. I am not saying that sex is the most important aspect of a relationship. Definitely not. A good relationship is built on trust, acceptance, fidelity, open communication, and true love. However, sex is integral to a healthy relationship, particularly in the m2m set-up.

The bottom line?

Sex is a special human experience, and it plays a special role in romantic relationships. Make it ordinary, and you make your life less happy. Take advantage of the sex cement effect. Use it wisely and carefully, and you will enjoy a rewarding, happy romantic relationship!

A Glance on Friendship

The reason for this article being written was a recent event concerning a good friend of mine. Unknown to my blind heart, I didn't know I had fallen in love with him. Only did the painful realization come to the surface when I learned that he has recently entered into a relationship. What made the pain worse was when he told me that it is with the person I myself had introduced a couple of days earlier. Instantly, I felt a bitter mix of emotions of remorse, loss, self-pity, depression, anger, and severe nostalgia. I know it was my fault. Apparently, I committed the blunder of allowing our friendship to become romantic. Little did I know that I had already crossed its vague boundaries blindly without realizing the emotional impact it may have on me. And for that experience, here are some of my thoughts on friendship...

True friendship springs up when two souls find comfort and support in each other.  It is built on trust, concern, self-disclosure, and open communication. It allows us to experience the  happiness of being loved, understood, and accepted.

Friendship is as good as long as boundaries are set clear and understood. Crossing the limits, maybe because they are ambiguous or implicit or perhaps because of a lack of discernment of either of the parties involved, may lead to undue misunderstanding, heartaches or scarred relationships.

In particular, sexual relations between friends tend to alter the relationship, either by “taking it to the next level” or by severing it. For some, it is alright to have sexual relations as long as no deeper emotional strings are involved, giving birth to the term "friends with benefit." For some, friendship ends when sexual relation begins. Depending on the mind set, values, attitude, perceptions and beliefs of the persons involved, sexual relations between friends may either enhance or depreciate the friendship.

On a positive note, a genuine platonic friendship grows and matures through time and lasts throughout the lifetime. It gives that rewarding experience and fulfillment that only genuine friends know. The depth of the relationship may come to the point that a friend becomes "closer than a brother." In many cases, a platonic friendship may also pave the way to a lasting, stable, romantic relationship. It just needs to be with the right person, at the right place, and at the right time.

Friends share common background and goals, and these are what bind them together.  From a discreet yuppie's point of view, friendship comes easy with another discreet yuppie who shares the same issues and concerns in life.   The feeling of belongingness and "sameness" is a strong binding force that keeps them together. Circumstances may affect the course of a friendship, but a true friend won’t allow these circumstances to dictate the outcome of the relationship. True friends stay, false friends leave.

At its best, friendship is a gift freely given to all. It is a blessing given to enrich our lives. It needs to be nurtured for it to grow and mature through time. It needs to be treasured. It needs to be loved.  After all, our human experience is never complete and joyful without true friends who add colors and vibrant details in the tapestry we call life.

Why does holding hands feels so good?

If there is one part of your body with a great number of sensitive, astutely accurate sensory receptors communicating with the brain for interpretation and integration, it is the hand particularly its palmar side (palm) and fingers. Compared to other parts of the body, you will observe that your hand is able to differentiate a wide variety of sensations and recognize with sharp accuracy various objects placed in it even with your eyes closed. You can tell if it’s a toy, a pen, or something else. When you hold on to something sharp, you can tell if it is pointed or bladed. How is this so?

The hand is gifted with the ability to pick up the slightest difference in texture (is it coarse, soft or softer?), temperature (is it warm, warmer, or cold?), pressure (is it painful or tolerable?), touch (is it light or heavy?), vibration (is it pulsating or shaking?), and combinations of these (is it wet, dry, or slippery?).

Needless to say on a side note, the fingers have nails that can sensuously scratch during hand holding sessions! J  In addition, the hands and fingers can be very skilful in executing maneuvers and dexterous manual tasks!

Given all of the above sensations, the brain will do the rest of the magical experience.  Is he nervous or confident? Is he gentle, is he rough? Is he romantic, is he sweet? Is he into me? Is this pleasurable? Am I enjoying? So on and so forth.

Humans are definitely created with remarkable abilities to detect, perceive, and experience a myriad of sensations.  With all the sensory abilities our hands are blessed with, we cannot dismiss the notion that truly, holding hands is a wonderful human experience!

Can anyone now tell of his unforgettable hand holding experience?

Slow sensuous kisses or rough wild kisses?

His name is incognito.  They say he is a good kisser.  So far, of all people he had shared kissing moments with (n = <10), no one failed to compliment him on his kissing style. He says he doesn’t really do anything unusual or put some extra effort during the kiss. So how does he kiss? He says, his trick of the trade is simple. He treats kissing as a way of expressing intense emotions in a softer, romantic way. When he kisses, he does it nice and slowly, sensuously, and gently, without the rush, savoring every moment of lip to lip, tongue to tongue, tongue to lip contact (he finds this latter one really sexy). When asked about tips on kissing (though he doesn’t count himself an expert), he has the following say. It’s a pretty simple formula to follow.

a.       Don’t rush. It ruins the magic of the moment.

b.      Don’t be a “vacuum cleaner.” Too much suction can be more distracting to your partner than pleasurable.

c.       Use the tongue. Tongue works magic if used appropriately.  Use it wisely!

d.      Be sensitive. Learn to pick up subtle cues from your partner if you’re kissing him/her right or not.

e.      Be sweet. To others, sweet nothings said during kissing add more spice and romance to the moment.

f.        Be considerate. Others find mustache and beard stubbles as adding more pleasure to the skin to skin contact, whereas others find it painful.  Do not be shy to ask your partner about it.

g.       Give each other feedbacks.  It is the best way of letting your partner know of your preferences. If both of you are aware of what is pleasurable and what is not, you can enjoy fully the pleasures of kissing.

So, should kisses be slow and sensuous or rough and wild? It really depends on you and your partner’s preferences. However, Incognito believes that the former provokes more pleasurable sensations than the latter, adding emotional component to the experience, ultimately bringing out the best kisser in you!